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It all started with a pretty casual discussion on the recent expulsion of the final year student from MMM Engineering College student. See, me and my roomies, we have this penchant for having these fruitful discussions: whether it’s the extremists, the Indian politicians, or the slightly theological aspects of ourselves. And usually, I don’t know why, but it’s me pitted against the others So, here I was, at it again!
Aditya* had to get his assignment printed and me and Pankaj**, we decided to give him company. The time it takes to cover the distance between HJB(our hostel) and the main gate is around 10-15 minutes depending on your pace; but, it’s really the quality of conversation that determines the duration. Guess I’m treading off the object here.
“You heard of the MMM case?”
“Yes”, I replied, “the action taken by the authorities was totally unwarranted though”
“Mhmm. Still, trying to get into a gal’s hostel! Phew man! I’d never have my daughter board in one”
“You’re getting impractical here mate!”, I retorted, “The value of quality education is far more important. IIT-K does allow gals inside boy’s hostel except 12-6 am!”
“Whatever! I still stand by my opinion!”
“See, neither me; nor you are in a position to stipulate. 18-20 years from now we don’t know what the conditions will be like! And even for now, we’re all adults! We know our responsibilities!”
“Huh! Co-ed hostels! We all know the problems don’t we?”
“I’m not saying co-ed! But at least you can allow gals during day time! What’s with this system I ponder which doesn’t allow one to bring his friend to his room”
Till now a silent spectator, Pankaj** finally found something to say.
“Because a gal and a boy can never be friends!”
“Kuch Kuch Hota Hai”, I sang, followed by a good laugh , “Oh C’mon you kiddin’ me??”
I don’t remember how, but the discussion suddenly shifted gears; Oh yes! I do know. That day, TOI had carried three rape reports in the city printed on one page only.
“Women have some err in this aspect”, said Aditya*.
“See, they wear these outfits…”
I had to cut him short, “You can wear whatever you wish to, but they can’t why the heck should it be so…??”
“Because the Indian society is accustomed to have it’s women clad in saris!!!”,said Pankaj** and continued in a sarcastic manner, “If you are so open minded you should migrate to the USA!!”
I never really understood Pankaj’s logics. So, I decided to leave it there.
Aditya* came to my rescue here, “What do you mean? if in a pub any man sees a gal in such attire he would not be able to control himself, I’d say”
“Hell!”, “For any such man clothes are of no matter!!”
At this very point the discussion ended, as we had reached our respective destination, but somewhere in my mind I knew, I had to ask theses questions.
Now this one wasn’t initially supposed to be here, but a chat with a friend made me put it here. The friend is a student at IP, and was sipping coffee at her home when came the omnipresent ‘aunty’.
The aunty, Dhar aunty, advised Angana*** not to fight with autowallahs.
“Why?”, she asked.
Now, Dhar aunty’s daughter who happens to study at Gargi also happens to own a scooty, “Beta! Today she was just reversing her scooty, 4 men came out of a scooty and threatened her. She said sorry and moved on!”
[Personally I would have advised the same, in this particular situation.]
I don’t consider myself to be the correct person to be answering these questions, that is perhaps the prime reason as to why I would like someone from the opposite sex to share their views. In a city which has practically turned into a war zone for any woman, whether it be a fifteen year old or fifty; it becomes pretty easy for the authorities to shed their duties and responsibilities, and put the blame on you.
The other thing, about which I hear a lot: eve-teasing and your response to it. I’ve got an elder sister and coached her myself in slangs and areas to target in case of any unfavorable condition; but I would like to know here is what would be your response in such a situation. I had a teacher once, who, scolded all the girls present stating, that you are yourselves responsible for this sorry state of affairs; it’s because of you that Indian women are looked upon in poor light internationally. Demanding reservation and quotas everywhere, if you yourself consider yourself to be downtrodden, at a lower level than men; then why this shouting about ‘equality’; It becomes obstinate!!
I do understand the fact that this city is not so compassionate towards it’s women; (if it were, there would have been no need to write this one down) but if you don’t respond anytime, it’ll just act as ‘ghee’ in the ‘aag’ . I’ve seen this work, when a man was confronted by a woman and the people around took good care of the fella !! This point is open for views from your side and well, hopefully, I’d be enlightened by you!!
* ** ***: All the names have been changed on request…..