Give Love some space

Recently, me and a friend of mine went to watch the movie, ISHAQZAADE. Though the movie was based on a theme that has been constantly depicted in Indian cinema for I don’t know how many years. A boy and girl of different communities fall in love and ultimately die in the process of struggling against society or their families.

This sprinkled with a few political dramas and some twists. Any ways I have no intention of writing a review of the movie.

The thing that struck me for the first time was the attitude of the parents (or grandparents) involved. Parents don’t cooperate, not because they think that their child would be unhappy. No! child’s happiness is nowhere in concern. They oppose because their social standing would be affected by it. Social standing and reputation,which they have built bit by bit over so many years. This is NOT true of only the people of great power and prestige in the society. In fact they can handle society better than normal people if it turns against them.

The very common class does it. Parents are so terribly afraid of what neighbors, uncles and aunts would say that happiness of their own children is a SECONDARY concern. As much as Love is rare, it is brutally suppressed wherever it starts to blossom, in a society like ours.

Marriage, by itself, is a great social show-off. Dowry ,grand rites etc extrapolate one’s social reputation. So the long preserved and cherished social reputation cannot be tarnished just because you’re in love. Marriage and Love, except in rare cases, are not even synonymous. Marriage and sex might be, but not Love. You want to marry? perfect! every other person does it. You’re in Love? What! Ridiculous!

Another day I was discussing this with another friend of mine, “Haan yaar par thoda bahut to dekhna padta hai…..” she said. Great! That’s why this has been running down the generations. Sometimes I wonder if all that Education has done is to increase salaries.

Too blind a love is certainly not appreciated (blind in terms of character of a person) I’m just suggesting that parents at least consider their children’s happiness. Teenagers are certainly prone to making mistakes in matters of Love but they can be properly brought up so the chances of choosing a wrong partner are reduced. But Parents shy away from such matters and as soon as the word ‘boy’ is mentioned (in case of girls) ,their skeptic behavior begins.

P.S : By love, I mean true love

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